Olivia and the Language of 1000 Faces

One thing that has amazed us as we watched Olivia grow and develop is the variety of expressions displayed on her little face. When she’s happy, her entire head radiates sunshine; when she’s upset, dark clouds roll into every wrinkle. Surprise, joy, curiosity, pain, tiredness, her face says it all.

What I find equally fascinating is watching grown-ups interact with her. Everyone’s seen the most mature, respectable people they know break out the most dorky faces and make the most bizarre noises and babble when they encounter a baby. I’m usually not the most expressive guy, but Olivia has me making stupid faces and noises with the best of them. The fun thing is getting reactions out of her and watching her face mimic your own expression.

“People’s emotions are rarely put into words; far more often they are expressed through other cues.” – Daniel Goleman

If you’ve ever been in a foreign country or have been forced to communicate to someone who speaks another language, you know that there’s a lot that can be communicated through expression and how something is said, rather than simply what is said. One of the big things I learned early on as a public speaker (and still need to often remind myself of) is that my facial expressions and tone are often communicating as much as my words are. When I would consider my posture and tell my eyebrows to get into the game, both my confidence and effectiveness went up a bunch. The secret is not to fake expression (people are good at seeing through that), but to let your emotion that’s on the inside show on your face.

Olivia is great at picking up our facial expressions as well. I’m convinced she can tell the difference between a forced smile and a genuine one. Working on non-verbal communication skills has never been so much fun…

Letting Go of the Checklist

Daily checklists are great. Checklists feel safe and keep things balanced. Checklists remind us about those things that we need to do and can’t forget. Checklists keep up productivity.

Checklists are great, at least when your aim is productivity.

But not all of life is about productivity.

If you’re married or have children, you know that checklists don’t always work out all that well. Relationships and humanity have a way of making a mockery of checklists.

Not if your spirituality is to look more like a relationship and less like a growth chart.

I’ve put a lot of faith in checklists, either my own idealistic ones, or ones I’ve borrowed from others. I’ve realized that I’m usually more concerned with my checklists than anyone else is. I’m learning to set those down, fearfully, in hopes that what is lost in striving will be made up for in relationship.

“I’m all for moderation but sometimes it seems
Moderation itself is a kind of extreme.” – Andrew Bird

Volaticus: Don’t design a logo before you’ve booked a gig

In high school a few friends and I started a band. We called ourselves “Volaticus” and knew we were on the brink of rock band fame and glory. Shortly after our first gig we had designed up a logo and were dreaming about making t-shirts and stickers. Unfortunately Volaticus never survived past its second performance.

Many times when we’re dreaming and beginning new ventures, the first thing we think of is the visuals that will represent us. While we should be developing our substance, we pour our energies into our appearance. In our visions of grandeur we get the right clothes, the coolest gear, a cool logo and shiny website, before we’ve even booked a gig.

“Meeting a person who wrote a masterpiece on the back of a deli menu would not surprise me. Meeting a person who wrote a masterpiece with a silver Cartier fountain pen on an antique writing table in an airy SoHo loft would SERIOUSLY surprise me.”
- Hugh McCleod “How to Be Creative”

Sometimes those things are necessary – it’s hard to start an online business without a website, and sometimes a logo or name gives your crew something to rally around – but we often spend more time developing the bells and whistles, rather than developing the core of our plan, our skills and our identity. And in my experience, if you’re printing stickers before you have a gig, that’s all your band may ever become.

Andrew Bird

Beautiful setting, beautiful music.

LOST, spankings, and what?

My good friend, Chris, has just released an eBook on how we read the Bible, called “More To The Story: What LOST, spankings, and doing laundry have taught me about reconciling Jesus and the God of the Old Testament”. He dives right in, looking at some of the questions that have kept church-folk squirming and everyone else confused about the Bible for years.

I’m really excited about this one. Chris has been sharing his thoughts and insights for years as a teacher and public speaker, but this is the first time he’s packaged his ideas on “paper.” He’s changed the way many of us (including myself) look at God and the Bible and now some of his ideas have been published for your enjoyment.

He’s giving the eBook away for free on his website. Download it, read it, enjoy.