Lost: Two confessions and a Mystery Box

Confession #1: I’m hooked on Lost. I never thought this would be me, eagerly awaiting each Tuesday, joining in discussions following each episode, mulling over key lines, speculating, wondering what might happen next. I’m hooked, and I’m loving it. But I must confess one other thing: I haven’t always been hooked. No, I’m a fair-weather fan, that guy that chooses to cheer for the winning team in the closing minutes of a game. You see, I only started watching Lost this season. I watched the beginning-of-season recap to get caught up (I’m trying to watch previous seasons, but no promises). So all authentic Lost junkies, thank you for accepting me, I am honored to be part of the tribe.

While I am a recent convert, I was imspired by Lost, and its creator J.J. Abrams, when I watched his talk at TED a couple years ago. His talk changed how I do communication and storytelling. Watch below or on the TED website.

“It represents infinite possibility; it represents hope; it represents potential.”

In this talk, J.J. Abrams introduces us to Tannen’s Magic Mystery Box, which he has not opened in the decades he’s owned it, and tells us what makes great stories tick: mystery. Thinking back, so many great movies, books and stories captivate us because we’re not told everything, but are left wondering about aspects of the story, sometimes until the very end. I recently watched Book of Eli, which holds several mysteries until the very end. When the mysteries were eventually solved, my mind reeled, forced to re-interpret much of the movie in light of new-found information about the main character. (And I must say, Abrams’ hint at the ultimate mystery box, in minute 13 of his talk, has had me rethinking all movies and stories in general).

I was talking with a couple friends the other day, and was surprised to find that some people don’t find mystery enjoyable. They’d rather not be held in suspense. We talked about how the length of time in which you’re kept in suspense is a large factor, some people give up when secrets aren’t disclosed quickly enough. Then there are some people who can enjoy the build-up of mystery for years (even up to 6 years, apparently…).

“Mystery is the catalyst for imagination.”

As storytellers (which, if you’re breathing, is you), we can use the power of mystery to engage our audiences. Even as a training program leader, I’ve found that using mystery while making announcements (usually not the most captivating part of anyone’s day) is a great way to keep my students’ attention.

Have you watched/read/heard any stories recently that use the “mystery box” to keep you interested? How can you use the “mystery box” to make your communication and storytelling more effective?

Reminiscing on a Friday Night

It’s a quiet, snowy Friday night, and I’m feeling sentimental. Within the next week or two our lives will be turned upside down forever. Our baby girl is due to arrive any day, our jobs are coming to a close in a week, and in a couple months we’ll be moving from the city that’s been home for the past 6 years. I’ve had the chance to build friendships, travel, and make cool things with some amazing people. I’m realizing that amidst all the stuff I’ve done in the past years, it’s the people and the relationships that really matter and last.

Below are a couple videos we shot as friends about a year ago in downtown Denver. Lots of fun. Anthony, Ted, Darren, thanks for the memories.

Flipping the Switch on Change

I just finished Switch, the newest book from the Heath brothers (authors of Made to Stick). While I was surprised that the second book from Chip & Dan wasn’t about communication, as their first had been, I really enjoyed this one.

Switch discusses how to make change happen, both personally and in relationships, as well as in organizations and countries. Leaning heavily on the analogy of the Elephant (one’s emotional motivation) and Rider (your reason or will), Chip & Dan talk about why change is often so hard and how to make it happen.

While some of their points seemed intuitive, thus simply providing vocabulary for things that we all know, other points really surprised me. For instance, did you know that people eat more when they’re given a bigger container of food (even if the food tastes terrible)? And that self-control is an exhaustible resource? Throughout the entire book, I found that their stories and examples latched onto my memory (I guess the book was “made to stick”), affecting the way that I see people’s behavior.

Here are a couple points that really got me thinking:

Find the bright spots. Often it’s important, instead of focusing on changing negative behavior, to see what’s going right and build on that. The Heath brothers write, for example, that in 1990 Jerry Sternin of Save the Chidren was charged with the task of reducing malnutrition among children in impoverished areas of Vietnam. Instead of launching new food programs or aiming to fight poverty, Jerry looked for “bright-spot” families whose kids weren’t malnourished, and investigated what they were doing different. He discovered that through a few basic changes in their eating behaviors (like eating four instead of two meals per day and adding sweet-potato greens and shrimp from the rice paddies to their rice), poor families were able to give their children the nutrients they needed.

“Our habits are essentially stitched into our environment.” During the Vietnam War, drug use among the US military was a huge problem, with half of soldiers trying narcotics and 20% becoming addicted. The White House feared what would happen when these soldiers returned to US soil, but found, surprisingly, that rates of drug use among returning Vietnam vets was less than one percent. Chip & Dan go on to explain that our habits our tied to our environment, and that personal change is much easier during a move to a new location. Also, to make change happen personally, we must consider the affects of our environment on our habits.

I found the ideas about environment especially intriguing due to my work. For the past six years I’ve been involved in running training programs for young people who want to grow their personal lives and change the world. While our students often experience incredible transformation during their time with us (three or five months), sustaining that change when they return home can be very difficult. I think that the insight in Switch could add to our conversation about creating sustainable change in young people’s lives.

If you’re interested in creating personal or organizational change, I’d recommend readingĀ Switch. This book provides a vocabulary for talking with family and co-workers about change, and provides important insight into the anatomy of change and people’s motivations and behaviors.

Lego and Obsessive On-Tasking

Dave exposed the myth of multi-tasking (thanks Chris). I used to be proud of having 10 windows open on my computer, moving swiftly between them giving the illusion of getting a lot accomplished. Lately I’ve been trying to focus my energies, removing distractions whenever possible. Nathan’s post last week made me re-visit the importance of focus.

Most often, in our social-media-rich culture, the most difficult thing is being able to focus on one thing for more than a couple seconds at a time. I’ve got that problem too. But I’ve also got another ailment, that of “obsessive on-tasking.”

I’m the guy in the meeting who starts getting fidgety when someone starts drifting off the checklist. Afterall, we’ve got work to do! I grew up with a “work before play” mentality and often hold onto it with an iron grip. Over the past couple years I’ve had several co-workers (intentionally or unintentionally) try to teach me the value of taking breaks from work. They’ve enticed me with a 4 o’clock smoothie run or an invitation to kick the soccer ball around outside. I’ve slowly been learning that “on-task” doesn’t always equal “productive,” and that, in fact, creativity often flows best when it’s not forced.

As I reflect back, I realize that I should have learned that years ago from playing with Lego.

I loved Lego as a kid. I had a big tub of blocks and pieces, and would build and play endlessly. The only problem with a big tub of pieces, though, is finding the right ones. Inevitably, I would get stuck looking for that one piece to complete my creation, say a “2X6 blue” piece (remember all that Lego lingo?). I would dig and dig through that tub, eventually convincing myself that no such piece existed. But if I walked away from the tub for a moment, then returned, I could find the needed piece in a matter of seconds, and it had usually been right in front of me the whole time.

I’ve read about one executive who goes for a run each afternoon to let his mind rest and unravel problems. My dad, a real estate agent, has said that often his most productive moments happen when he gets out of the office and goes for coffee (since that’s where his clients, or prospective clients, are).

In Dan Pink’s talk at TED, he talks about how some workplace motivators focus our energies, but that narrowed focus is often harmful to creative processes in which objectivity and considering new solutions are necessary.

This week, when you reach the point of frustration with your work or a difficult challenge, take a break, then tackle it again with fresh eyes. You may find yourself being more creative and productive in the process.